Six months later, she was engaged to the handsome wealthy man of her dreams.
She's now (presumably) happily married with two kids... It's taken me a while to face the fact that there are rules of engagement one must follow to properly attract and trap -- I mean keep -- a partner.
And the book seemed to imply that most women were lowly, desperate creatures.
This particular version is about dating in the digital age, so it covers things like how to handle online dating, Facebooking, Tweeting and texting; they even included a handy little "Text-Back Times" table, which outlines how long you should wait before responding to a text, depending on how old you are.
First published in 1995, this book, written by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, was quickly established as a bestseller while women throughout the world fell prey to its promise of “time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr.
Right.” Seemingly written as a guide to playing hard to get and thus ensure men would always be in hot pursuit, “The Rules” was forcefully encouraged to me by a complete stranger with whom I was making small talk at an event.
In fact, women shouldn’t take the first step to initiate any relationship — and that includes online dating, the duo said. PERFECT' Once you have them, the authors said, ignore them — at least for a little while.
That’s easier said than done in the age of Twitter and Facebook, so the new-and-improved guide — “Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating” — urges women to play hard-to-get with social media.
The women who wrote the seminal — some say retrograde — 1995 dating guide “The Rules” have updated their book for the 21st century, but haven’t changed the main rule for women: Play hard to get.
If you act this way, men will treat you the way you want to be treated. The other part of the controversy is that though the Rules are simple, they are VERY hard to do when you really want to know where you stand with a man.
Therefore, there are a lot of women out there disparaging the Rules not because they don't work, but because the women couldn't or wouldn't follow them.