Once I needed advice on an unrelated situation and I asked him to see things from my point of view rather than from an older persons point of view.He replied that he can do that for his daughter but not for me.
This time, I know what I have and am happy to do my work. So, getting to your question, why was I drawn to a younger woman? I had just been through hell in my first marriage and particularly in the horrible divorce. I had grown cynical about love, about relationship, about life itself. Our time together was such a special time which made my entire life so much richer. I appreciate the memories and most of all I appreciate her for helping me to see what’s possible in relationship. Even when I was in relationships that didn’t work, it served as a vision for what’s possible.That’s a bit misleading too because she was an extraordinary person; not a typical 19 year old. I say mostly because there were of course certain ways in which I was more worldly.She had suffered a great deal, growing up in extreme poverty, and perhaps as a result was super mature for her age. It was actually an amazing relationship for a while. At the same time, I’d say we took turns nurturing each other.It was all very loving (until it wasn’t and even then it still was). We both needed remedial therapy to overcome childhood trauma and to learn how to be good partners.For both of us it was our first truly amazing relationship (in fact, it was my second relationship and her first).